Over Cups of Coffee: Being assertive --- I finally did it!

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I spoke to L about a whole T situation.

So how did we do it? Ah...here's a story.

Yesterday we returned home in a afternoon as good as they were both in her room. They didn't listen to me get back as good as go in to my room. Anyway, about 15 minutes later, we listen to a showering running as good as we figure it's L. we get out of my room to get something as good as listen to voices in a shower. Yep, we got it right. They were both in a shower.

And we lost it. Not given we am a prude. we do not caring which they have sex in their bedroom. But receiving a showering together (read: possibly engaging in sexual activities) is crossing boundaries given which we use a fricking showering as good as good as some-more importantly, she doesn't clean a lavatory --- we do!!! And we do not quite wish to be cleaning up other people's corporeal fluids!!! we motionless there as good as afterwards which this was a final straw. we was going to contend something. we had had enough.

The question was how.

I sat in a lounge room seething for a while. And afterwards it hit me.

I could usually strike in to them when they got out of a lavatory as good as feign warn which there's two people entrance out of a shower! we waited in my kitchen with a glass of water as good as listened a showering turn off (after a prolonged full of blood showering mind you!). And afterwards we walked towards my room (my room is right opposite a bathroom, by a way so we have to pass by to get in) And initial L came out as good as pronounced hi to me. And then, T follows during a back of as good as says hi too. And we went "What the...?!!"

And they laughed.

And which was my cue. we told L we would similar to to discuss with her sometime as good as asked her when she was available. We scheduled a time for Monday night. And we went in to my room. we was chatting with my sister as goo! d as rev elation her to call me on Monday night during 9...just in case.

A whilst later, there was a knock on my room door. It was L. Telling me which she had sent T home as good as would similar to to have a discuss right away given a suspense was killing her. And so we did.

I told her how we felt similar to we was sharing with 2 people instead of 1 as good as pronounced we would cite if T came home usually once or twice a week instead of 5! we additionally pronounced which we didn't caring what they did in a privacy of their room yet we would cite they didn't in a showering given it was a usual area. And then, she apologised for T entrance over so often. Said he would come over usually twice a week. And...get this...she pronounced they do not have sex (no sex prior to marriage...apparently)!!! we scarcely laughed out loud as good as said, yeah you're Virgin Mary. we wanted to tell her which oral sex is still sex (as we tell my immature teenage clients) given we can catch STIs. But we tranquil myself! :-P And does she seriously consider we believe that? But oh well. As prolonged as they do not fucking do it in a lavatory or vital room or kitchen or any full of blood usual area, we do not give a shit. Well, may be we do. But it's reduction sum if it's in her bedroom.

Anyway, so right away we will monitor it. One of my friends thought we should have true kicked her out given L was crossing a line big time. we probably would have. If finances had not been tight. we might wait another month as good as see how things have been going. And if I'm not happy, well, L is out. And we have been assertive so there's no excuses of not observant how we am feeling about things.

In a end though, we did it. we faced my fear. Even yet we was shitting myself whilst articulate to her...even yet we could feel my heart violence so quickly, we still did it. we consider it's given we was so peeved off, it made a fright a tad less!

So what do we all think? Is it satisfactory which in a month if! things have been still a same, we contend arrivederci to her? And have been we unapproachable which we faced my fear??? =) ['Coz we know we all luuuurve me!]

Until subsequent time,

Cheers!!!

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